The drama triangle includes:
The victim, the rescuer, and the persecutor. When we
become the victim due to our lack of money, we
begin looking for a rescuer to be a source for more
money. However, because we often choose to remain
in our role of victim, the rescuer also becomes
the persecutor. As long as we want money to be our
rescuer, it takes on the role or our persecutor, and we
remain the victim.
An example of this is we
buy a large house, a dream house, representing our
“rescuer.” However, when we cannot pay for the
house, the rescuer takes on the role of persecutor.
Or, let's say we win the lottery. We think that
our life will now be perfect. However, the
problems associated with the money cause us to be
persecuted instead of rescued.
In the business world a
good example is: We had a wonderful quarter or even a
whole year. We think that from now on we will not have
any more problems, we stop planning for the future and
this profit becomes our persecutor.
To end this cycle, we
must stop being the victim and start moving on with our
lives. Being the victim can be addictive, and we
want get past this phase of our life.
Light is Within
Now I will tell you a story about a diamond. I
hope it will become yours to draw upon at opportune
One hundred years ago
a very rich family in Chicago bought the biggest diamond
from a very famous diamond dealer in New York.
Everyone in Chicago wondered how the diamond
would be transferred, and all the thieves and
pickpockets came to the train station the day the
transfer was going to be. Mr. Smith, a very
respected man, was asked to transfer the diamond. The
most famous thief in New York, Mr. James, showed
up at the train station. Once Mr. James arrived to
the train station all the other thieves left because
they knew that they did not have a chance.
It was clear that the
famous thief Mr. James managed to share the same parlor
car with Mr. Smith. Mr. James waited for Mr. Smith to
leave the parlor car to go to the restroom and then he
practically tore the parlor car apart but he could not
find the diamond. Finally Mr. Smith went to
sleep and then Mr. James searched Smith's every pocket,
every fold, to no avail.
The train arrived
in Chicago, and Mr.James approached Mr. Smith and
said, “Mr. Smith, you know who I am and why I am
here. I did not find what I wanted but please just
tell me where you hid the diamond."
Mr. Smith replied, "I will tell you if you
come with me to the house of the rich family that
ordered the diamond."
And indeed Mr. James and
Mr. Smith went together to the home of the rich family.
When they arrived every one was anxious to see Mr.
Smith and Mr. James together.
Then the Rabbi said; do
not worry, the diamond has been in a safe place
all the time. With that Mr. Smith reached to Mr. James'
pocket and fetched the big diamond. Mr. Smith,
being wise, knew that the safest place for the diamond
was with the thief.
The answer was
within the thief.
Create a win-win
In order to create a win-win situation, you have to have
a paradigm shift in which you don't think anymore of one
person winning and one person losing, but a complete win
for both sides. This paradigm shift will show the
other party that you are happy with your opponent
getting what he wants. The old way was to show
that you are upset and not happy with the outcome, and
the other party will think that they have won.
Actually what really happened is that you started
convincing yourself that you were not happy with the
agreement and started demanding more and more and making
the conflict bigger rather than resolving it.
When you give in on a
point in the conflict or you let go of certain requests
that you had, do not do it with the expectation that the
other party will do the same. If you do it with that
expectation, the other party might feel that you are
putting pressure on him or her. You have to let go
without any expectation.
This does mean that you
have to compromise your integrity. If you feel
that by letting the other party receive or get what they
want, then you will feel completely wiped out. Then and
only then do not give in because in such a situation you
need too much energy to live with yourself. However,
this situation is usually rare, and a compromise will
help you and will create a real win-win situation for
both of you. Richard Carlson in his book said,
“do not sweat the small stuff.” Later on he
continues and says actually “everything is small
stuff.” When you let the other party have the feeling
that they are winning, they will be ready to go more
than half way towards you because they will want to keep
their position of winning.
Ghandi once said that you
can't aspire for good and justice in one part of your
life and then have a different aspiration in another
part of your life. You can't aspire to win in one
situation and make the other party lose, and not have
other losses in your life.
Setting, Creating Affirmations
What is an affirmation? An affirmation is stating
what you want in your life and creating it. By creating
it you give the creation a direction. If you don't
know where you're going, how can you get there? Stating
an affirmation is declaring where you want to be in
life. An affirmation is like a plan. If you don't have
an affirmation, or a plan, then you are planning for
chaos. An example is if you are taking a trip you choose
where you are going, the city, the country, etc. If you
don't plan how to get to a place, you'll get to a place
you don't desire. Affirmations work in the same
way. Affirmations are actually looking at the end result
and starting to create it, instead of looking at the
past results and using that as an excuse for
non-creation. An affirmation is a creation with a
breakthrough in mind. It is creating a result, that in
day-to-day life, you did not dream that you could
create. It is a creation of abundance, beyond
imagination. Another important point is that if you
create one breakthrough in your life with your financial
situation, it will carry itself and will spread to every
part of your life.
Tim Stewart said, “Look
at the person you would like to be or a goal that you
would like to achieve, and start acting as if you are
already that person or have already achieved that
goal." Remember to practice acting every day as if
you are that person.
"Assume a virtue and it is yours." It is
the same with goal setting or making a mission
statement. Studies show again and again that the only
way to get somewhere in life is to have a plan, to set
goals, or to create affirmations.
Napoleon Hill said,
"Whatever your mind can conceive you can
Once you create an affirmation, a change takes place in
you, and you will see that everyone around you also
changes. For example, if your affirmation is to be
loving, you will start loving everyone around you; once
your friends or co-workers feel loved, they will start
loving you. The same thing happens with money. Once you
are generous with money towards others, they become
generous towards you.
The affirmation is a kind
of vision that gives you the power to create whatever
you want in the financial world. This vision will give
you the power for future creation not dependent on past
performance. In history all the leaders that created
breakthroughs in the world did it out of their vision.
Examples are Martin Luther King or Gandhi. They had a
vision, and they performed out of their vision. So I
want you to have a vision and to perform out of this
vision, out of your affirmation.
An affirmation should be
made when you are relaxed, and it should be done on a
regular basis. Affirmations help you focus your
energy on what you want to create. By repeating
your affirmation, you are creating a new reality that
becomes a part of you. Repeating affirmations help
focus your attention on the affirmation, to bring what
is desired to you. The affirmation is like a magnet
creating all circumstances to fall in place to bring you
what you desire. Through affirmation you can achieve
your monetary quest. However you cannot only affirm
When you do your
affirmation, be sure that you put full attention in your
intention. If you create your affirmation without really
putting your full intention into it, you will not get
Try writing your
affirmations down. Put them on Post-it® notes, on index
cards, on the refrigerator, or wherever. Put the
Post-it® somewhere you can look at frequently.
You can carry the index cards with you. This will help
your affirmation become part of you. The more you
express your affirmation, the more real it becomes.
Repeat it frequently to yourself.
Why is it important to
repeat the affirmation frequently? Because it is
important not to lose focus of your direction. It is
like being in a room and you want the light on; you
won't switch the light on and off continuously because
then you will have no light. When you make your
affirmation, be relaxed. Avoid using negative terms like
don't and shouldn't. These terms bring negativity from
the past into the future. You want to create a new
future, without the past being part of it.
There are four components
of affirmations and goal setting.
in Positive Terms
State your affirmation in
a positive sentence. Never state it with a
negative in a sentence. For example: “I will not
lose any more money” will bring you to a state of
accepting losing the money. Instead you have to
affirm “I am profitable.” This will lead you
to becoming profitable. Another example is when you say,
“I will not be late,” you are concentrating on the
problem, rather than the solution of being on time.
Don't say, “I will be
well off a year from now." Accept where you are
now. Say, “I am well off now. The situation is
improving all the time.” Also do not use the word
"try." Trying is not doing. For example, a
thirsty person who is trying to drink a glass of water
will stay thirsty. If he drinks the water, he won't be
trying anymore, he will be drinking. Affirmation is
about doing, not trying.
When you state your
affirmation, I want you to start a creation with a
breakthrough in mind. Do not stay within the ordinary
limits of everyday reach beyond the norm. If you do, you
will stay where you are. The following experiment will
make you understand what I mean. A scientist took a
group of fleas and put them in a box. The fleas were
constantly jumping and hopping in the box; however, they
constantly reached the top of the box, and would stop
there. After a while they got used to jumping only to
the height of the box. When released from the box, they
continued to jump only to the height of the box.
Some people are even in a wore position; they do not
have even a box, and they are actually walking aimlessly
on the bottom of the box. Are not we all doing the
same? We built our own box. Instead of creating
abundance, we create limitations. I want you to create
your affirmations without your box in mind. Create
abundance, create more profit.
affirmations are thoughts. Thoughts are energy that we
can control and change whenever we want to. Your
affirmations are possible. Never doubt your affirmation.
You must truly believe in your affirmation for it to
come true. For example, if a smoker who wants to quit
says, “I am going to quit,” but in the back of his
mind he thinks, “I cannot quit,” then he will not be
able to quit. Affirmations must remain positive. They
cannot be stated as: “I don't want this” or “I
don't want that," because if you do this, you are
empathizing the “don't” rather than creating
something positive. Focus on what you want, rather than
what you don't want. If you spend your time
focusing on what you don't want, then that is what is
more likely to happen.
If we remember that our
feelings about failure are only thoughts, then we can
understand that they can be changed. This change puts us
in control, which opens our mind to the possibility of
being successful. Once we have an open mind, the rest
will follow. We must be sincere about changing our
thought patterns into a positive frame of reference. If
we think, “Things are not working and we want them to
improve," we are creating a negative basis of
thought, which focuses on the negativity of our current
situation, rather than on the change we wish to
institute. We must be completely positive or our
affirmations cannot benefit us. An example of doing the
correct affirmation is: “I completely accept my
financial situation. I am creating excess profit
in my life.”
You should be focused on
what you want in order to get where you want to go.
Here is the story of the 12 lazy people. A rich man
approached 12 people lying on the beach and said he'd
give a pot of gold to the laziest person there.
Eleven of the people jumped up saying, “I’m the
laziest, I’m the laziest.” Well, the rich man
gave the pot of gold to the one who didn’t budge.
So remember, it’s important to stay focused.
in the Present Tense
The affirmation should be
stated in the present tense, otherwise you put a
distance and time barrier between you and the
State your affirmation in
the present tense, rather than the future tense. If you
create it in the future tense, then you are hoping for
something to happen, rather than making it happen. When
you state your affirmation in the future you create a
distance between you and the affirmation. You must state
it in the present tense, because the present is all
there is. Here’s an example. You are meeting a
new partner with whom you plan to create a new business
venture in two weeks. For the next two weeks avoid
guessing and planning where you will meet, what you will
wear, etc. Instead, spend the next two weeks working on
doing and taking control of the situation. It is
possible that all of the things that you imagined might
not work out. The restaurant might not take
reservations, your favorite outfit may be dirty.
Concentrate on what you can control rather than the
details that you might not have control over. The same
applies to your monetary situation.
I want us to state our
affirmation as if we already achieved what we want. It
is important to be in the mindset of achieving already
when creating our affirmation. Let us look into the
future and see how we will feel when we achieve our
affirmation and start living these feelings now. In
turn, feeling the way we wanted to feel after achieving
our goal will manifest our affirmation.
We have to be sincere
about making more money. If we just focus on wanting and
needing, the affirmation will keep us in the wanting and
needing stage. To get out of the wanting and needing
state, we have to state the affirmation in the present
tense. Creating takes place in the present.
in Realistic and Achievable Terms
It is important that we
believe that the affirmation is going to work for us
whether or not we believe in the affirmation ourselves.
In order for it to be believable, it has to be very
clear in your mind and very specific. For example, if
you want to make a certain amount of money, state the
amount of money that you want to create and remember to
always state it in the present tense, like our company
is making a profit of $5 million a year.
Stating the affirmation and believing in the affirmation
makes us feel that we are in control of what we are and
where we are.
Once you decide what your
affirmation or goal is, start acting, feeling, and
living as if you achieved it.
Once a week, revise your
affirmation to change the parts that are not working.
Make them something that works. If your affirmation is
unrealistic, then you need to create a new affirmation.
An affirmation should not be “wishful thinking.”
Keep your goal and stick
to it. An example for this is a famous story about
Einstein who was always focused on his goal. One
day after finishing writing his paper Einstein was
looking for a paper clip. The only paper clip he
could find was a crooked one. While he was
searching for something to straighten this clip out
with, he found a whole container full of paper clips.
Einstein took one of the paper clips, bent it and
started to straighten the other paper clips. His
assistant asked, “Professor Einstein, you have a whole
container full of paper clips.” Einstein replied,
“My goal was to fix this paper clip and that’s what
on Truth and Acceptance
The affirmation or goal
setting is done only after you accept where you are and
you are detached emotionally from the past. This
doesn't mean not accepting the past. Detachment is
a very important step in the whole process. If you
start your affirmation not based on truth and ignore
failures you had or lack of success, it will
subconsciously bring those back. You will be afraid with
the new creation that something won't work out.
You should own your
affirmation; do not let the affirmation own you. Make it
part of your life, but do not let it run your life. If
you get so involved in the affirmation that you forget
everything else, you forget your family, you forget your
own life and you will suffer even more. So you get your
affirmation and then what? Remember the story of King
Midas that wanted gold so much that he wished that
everything he touched would be turned into gold?
He got what he wanted but could not eat or drink,
because everything he touched would turn into gold. He
realized how bad his wish was when the only person he
loved turned into gold also, and then he reversed his
wish. Therefore, you affirm with caution and integrity,
not ignoring the rest of the world.
If you want to make
something happen, instead of just wanting it to happen,
you need to take all the necessary steps to make your
affirmations become a reality. By voicing your
affirmation, you are creating the possibility for things
to work without attachment to the way things did not
work in the past. Basically, you are creating a new
future with a possibility for change. Your affirmation
is your goal. If your goal or affirmation is
too far away from the real truth, this will dis-motivate
you. You have to know when you create a goal that it is
achievable. Don’t get discouraged by not being able to
fulfill a goal or affirmation that is too big.
Create a specific goal that is attainable. When it
is not attainable, it is worse than not having a goal at
all. You have to be specific with your goal, or you get
non-specific results. Your brain is like a computer, if
you don't give it specific instruction, you will get
results that are not specific either. You may need
smaller, mini-affirmations to help you get there at
first. Making your affirmation happen is an enjoyable
process. If you are miserable while trying to reach you
affirmation, maybe you should re-think the affirmation,
making it more realistic. However, do not be afraid to
create an affirmation that seems to be far-fetched. If
you don't reach it, your affirmation just needs
modification. Your goal should not be to make just more
money, it should be having the satisfaction while you
are reaching your goal. Concentrate on what you want
your affirmation or goal is to be, and it will happen.
Affirmations empower us
by not letting circumstances run our life. When we
create an affirmation, we start acting the way we want
to become, and the result is that we become what we want
to be. We act as if we already achieved what we wanted
to achieve, and then the achievement follows. When you
let circumstances run your life you either fall into the
drama triangle, or stay in the state of waiting for
things to change by themselves. In other words, you do
not have control.
The story of the mackerel
is very famous. A scientist put the mackerel in
the aquarium with a lot of small fish. At first, the
mackerel was constantly eating all the little fish.
After a while the scientist put a piece of glass between
the mackerel and the other fish. The mackerel
tried to eat the small fish and only hurt himself on the
glass. After a while he understood that he would not be
able to get the fish and he stopped trying. At that
stage the scientist took away the glass but the mackerel
learned his lesson, did not even try to eat the fish and
died of starvation.
What I want you to learn
from this story is that you should not be fixed in one
way of doing things without being open to test and
retest the ground again.
When you are involved
with affirmation, goal-setting or a mission statement
for your business, you should create a mission statement
together with your employees. You do not want to create
an imposed mission statement. Those usually do not work
and the more you insist in their creation, the more they
become unimplementable. You have to get to the point
that you create the mission statement together. It is
also very important that the employees or your partners
see the value that they get out of this mission
statement as well as about their input. Your goal
should be your own goal. If you work on someone
else’s goal, you may not achieve it. Create your
own goal and see how you can incorporate it with the
Each person should do his
own affirmation and then communicate it to his boss.
If your boss tells how much you have to do, you are not
motivated by it. What I’ve seen in companies is
that they have told their employees that they have to
increase productivity by 20 or 25% or by a certain
amount of money. Some employees thought they
couldn’t achieve this and did worse or even left.
It was therefore counterproductive. The point is
to work with the employees so that they will be
empowered, not disempowered, by someone else's goal
setting. If there is anxiety about what you are to
produce, that can create a problem.
Once you decide to make a
breakthrough in production or in your life, stick to the
goals and affirmation you have set. It’s
important to remain truthful by maintaining your values
and integrity. Put your whole self into the project
without thinking about what other people think about
Working with integrity
means working and striving to create profits in a manner
that will help all the people around you: your
employees, partners, and your clients. If you
concentrate on profit only and do not take the world
around you into consideration, you will create a
situation that backfires. It may produce
short-term profits, but it will result in bigger losses
in the long run.
Every single person needs
to have the mindset of producing more profit. The
mindset itself and concentration on the goal will
automatically change the profit. If you
concentrate on what you want, you will suddenly have it.
Basically, you really need to want to produce profit and
to have no doubts regarding profit. When you begin
to have doubts, you subconsciously focus on the doubt
rather than the profit itself.
John Homer Miller
“Your living is determined not so much by what life
brings you but by the attitude you bring to life."
Not so much by what happens to you as by the way
your mind looks at what happens.
and Their Role in Our Life
Stress and lack of profit are thoughts, and thoughts
are within you. You are the only one who can
If stress were an entity, you probably would have been
able to sell it.
prisoners of our own thoughts; it is only our brain that
tells us that we are stressed or that we cannot produce
more profit. Actually the limitations that we have are
the limitations that we impose on ourselves. Sometimes
the thoughts of the world's greatest achievers created a
barrier and prevented them from advancing even further.
of Henry Ford
When Henry Ford was asked what will happen if you
will lose all your money and his answer was: "I
will make it back within five years." He had the
mentality of a wealthy man. He came out of
abundance in the world so he knew that he would be able
to achieve his wealth again. When somebody gets
his money from taking it from somebody else he will
never feel wealthy because he will always be afraid that
somebody else will take it from him.
Money should give you security and free time to do what
you want with your life. A lot of rich people do not
have this type of security or time to do what they want.
In contrast wealthy people know how to use their time
Watch your thoughts, they become your words.
Watch your words, they become your actions.
Watch your actions, they become your habits.
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
You remember the saying,
“Be careful what you wish for, you just might get
it.” After all, your thoughts become your
How do we achieve a shift
from negative to positive mindset?
Very simply by changing our statement from: I want to be
successful, financially independent, and produce a great
profit,” to “I am successful and, financially
independent, and I am producing a lot of profit”
This change in mindset draws the process of achieving
this goal of making your money.
By dwelling on past
problems, you are not allowing yourself to create a new
future. Today is the tomorrow you worried about
yesterday. You may have worried in the past, but
if you stop now, you create your new future now.
Voltaire said, “90% of our fears do not become
You never lose in a
business. You might have lost a certain amount of
money, but if you learn from it, it was just the expense
of the lesson. Sometimes you think you didn’t get any
value from a certain business venture. Actually,
you might have gotten even more value from learning what
not to do in the future than any value you might have
gotten from the a partial success in the business
In his research to create
the light bulb, Thomas Edison failed 1,000 times.
When somebody asked him about achieving his goal only
after 1,000 experiments. He answered, “I’ve
learned only 999 ways for a light bulb not to work.”
from Maharaji's book: I am that
“Between the banks of pain and pleasure the river of
life flows. It is only when the mind refuses to flow
with the life and gets stuck at the banks, that it
becomes a problem. By flowing with life I mean
acceptance, letting come what comes and go what does.
Desire not, fear not, observe the actual, as and when it
happens, for you are not what happens, you are to whom
The best choice is to
choose. To accept what we have. If the problem has
a solution, there is no reason to worry about it; the
problem will be solved. If the problem does not
have a solution, worrying won't help you anyway.
The Creator gathered all of creation and said, “I want
to hide something from the humans until they are ready
for it. It is the realization that they create their own
The Eagle said, “Give
it to me, I will take it to the moon.” The Creator
said, “No, one day they will go there and find it.”
The Salmon said, “I
will hide it on the bottom of the ocean.” The Creator
said, “No, they will go there too.”
The Buffalo said, “I
will bury it on the Great Plains.” The Creator said,
“They will cut into the skin of the earth and find it
Then Grandmother Mole who
lives in the breast of Mother Earth and who has no
physical eyes but sees with spiritual eyes, said, “Put
it inside them.” And the Creator said, “It is
Sometimes we are
convinced that we are totally and completely right about
how things should be. We think we know exactly how
to make things right; or employees don't know how to
make things right. Let us ask ourselves, are
we right, and what did we get out of it?
Think about the situation of being right and what…
Story of the Farmer and the Sage
We never know what is the reason for certain things
that happen Maybe it will be for the good in the end.
An example is this story:
Here is a story about the farmer who lost his horse.
He went to the Sage man, and said;
Is not this the worst thing that can happen?
The sage man's answer was:
Maybe yes, maybe no.
The next day a horse came to his field, a younger
and stronger horse.
He caught him,
Then he went to the Sage man, and said;
Is not this the best thing that can happen?
The sage man's answer was:
Maybe yes, maybe no.
A week later his son rode the horse and fell off the
horse and broke his leg.
He went to the Sage man, and said;
Is not this the worst thing that can happen?
The sage man's answer was:
Maybe yes, maybe no.
The next day the king sent for all the young men to be
drafted to the army, but did not draft anyone who was
not in good health, or had a broken leg.
He went to the Sage man, and said;
Is not this the best thing that can happen?
The sage man answer was:
Maybe yes, maybe no.
The point is that we have to accept the situation
because we never know what life will bring us.
We have to remember that we are in control of every
situation and we create everything in our life. Even
when we are sure that we did not want to create a
certain thing we might have created it subconsciously to
prevent us from stumbling. Sometimes when we look back
at the situation, we understand that what actually
happened was for our good.
Strong people do not let
their feelings control their reaction.
Weak people let their feelings control their reaction.
When we blame somebody
else for our monetary problems, or fight with our
business partner or spouse, we use the money as a
tangible object to fight over, rather than expressing
our painful feelings. Remember that we can't change
others' actions or feelings, we can only control our own
actions or feelings.
Not only do not blame
somebody else for your monetary problems but also do not
blame yourself. By blaming yourself you fall into
the judgment mode, which in turn makes you become the
Remember that for every
minute that you fight or argue with somebody you lose 60
seconds of peace of mind
When we have certain
expectations of what others will do or will not do,
rather than what they do best, we create a
self-fulfilling prophecy. When we expect a person
to be nonproductive or non-profit producing, we create a
situation in which we allow a person to become just that
and we do not allow them to manifest in any other way.
Evaluate your relationships: what does it cost you in
the long run to be right? It may cause such
resentment in others that in the long run you will
suffer more than you would by letting the issue go.
a Bicycle Represents the way
You Interact with the World
The rest of the world will go on whether or not you
participate in it. The financial world is that way.
It is just like riding a bicycle. Before you learn
how to ride a bicycle, the process looks very
challenging. But once you have learned how to ride
it, you don't think about how hard it looked, you just
do it. It’s not hard anymore because you now
know how to ride it.
However, there are two ways to ride a bicycle.
The first is to do it automatically, without thinking,
just doing it. You might fall, or not ride as
quickly as you need to. You just let it happen.
The other way to ride a bicycle involves a conscious
thought process in which you focus on your technique.
When you focus on the technique and loving the riding,
rather than just automatically riding the bicycle, you
become a better biker. Once you have learned to
love riding your bicycle, you master the process.
You do not fall. You know how to control any of
your movements with the bicycle.
What does this have
to do with finances?
By learning to love your financial situation, you will
be able to have more control over the situation.
Remember after you have learned how to ride your
bicycle, there are variations based on the direction you
take. You can ride the bicycle without any
direction, unaware of where you are going and where you
will end up. If you do this in life, you will
spend most of your life just getting from one place to
another without experiencing any profit.
Another way to ride your bike is with direction, but
without harmony with the world. You know where you
are going, but you constantly have obstacles on the way.
The world provides these obstacles, whether they are
rocks, trees, or potholes, to make you fall off the
bicycle. These are constantly causing you
problems, because you feel that the world is against
you. If you are like this, when you do not
succeed, you blame it on the world, and then what you
have is what you call bad luck.
Or, maybe you have a direction, and you are in harmony
with the world. You know what needs to be done
when you reach each obstacle, and you enjoy overcoming
each obstacle. If you are like this bicyclist, you
will always be prosperous in your monetary ventures.
Love the ride, embrace the ride, and enjoy the ride.
Love the situation you are in whether it is good or bad.
What may look to you like a crisis actually may be an
opportunity in disguise. There is a reason for
everything that happens. In Chinese, the character
for crisis and opportunity are the same. Think of
your crisis as an opportunity.
Graham Bell and his Crisis
Alexander Graham Bell’s mother was deaf, and when
his wife was going deaf, he was very motivated to
produce something with which he could still communicate
with her. This crisis was the catalyst for the
opportunity to invent the telephone. Each coin has two
sides. This crisis that Alexander had in his family was
what made the shadow shine. Without this crisis, we may
not have had the telephone. You should not be stuck in
your problems; you should look beyond your problem. It
was like the person complaining about pain in his feet.
The doctor showed him another person waiting in the
lobby without feet, so he knew his problem was not
nearly as bad.
Sometimes, when we are in
the midst of a hard financial situation, it is difficult
to view the situation clearly. We see it from our
own frame of reference, rather than viewing it
objectively. We have to try to view things as an
outside observer; In order to be the observer you have
to step aside from the action, and only then you can
observe from the outside what is happening inside. For
example if you hungry and you go to the fridge and open
the door without deciding what you want to eat, you
might overeat. However if before you open the fridge
door, you evaluate what you have inside, as an outside
observer, you will make a better choice.
Lama on Compassion
compassion is not just an emotional response, but a firm
commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly
compassionate attitude toward others does not change,
even if they behave negatively. Through universal
altruism, you develop a feeling of responsibility for
others: the wish to help them actively overcome their
Holiness the Dalai Lama
If you want to go somewhere and you do not have a plan
to where you want to go you will get to a place that you
did not want to get. It is better to create a plan and
you will get to where you want to go.
The role of the observer
will help you to view things more objectively.
When we try to view the situations from the another
person’s point of view, we still are not viewing it
objectively. We are saying what we think that they
are thinking, rather than what they actually think. We
are not being objective.
Unfortunately, many times
when the problem becomes a crisis, it is hard to change
the situation. Newton’s laws of inertia dictates
that an object at rest will stay at rest until forced
into movement by an outside force. So, often we
need a crisis to react.
Remember that it is more
important to be interested than to be interesting.
Bernard Shaw said that if you don't like the
circumstances you are in, create new circumstances.
If you see that you or your company is not creating
enough money, look for different circumstances in which
you can create more money.
Ignoring the lack of
profit or not dealing with the lack of profit is dealing
with the problem in a non-productive manner. Often
managers deal only with the problems that they know
about and they don't deal with the problems they don't
know about. Therefore, it’s important for the
manager to ask the employees and co-workers to discover
if there are other problems because the problem that
they do not know that exist will become the biggest
problems later on.
By questioning others, we
find problems we did not even know existed. Those
problems are then solved before they become major
crises. We have to accept all of the problems to
begin creating more profit. Dwelling on things
that didn’t work out in the past keeps you stuck in
Remember, feelings towards the situation are just
thoughts, and thoughts can be changed to be positive and
hence create a more prosperous atmosphere.
The employer, the
employee, and the partner all have the same vision for
the business: you all really want to create more profit.
The employees want it in order to create job stability
and the employers in order to create a strong company.
Because of this, try to think as one unit with a similar
goal. More profit for the company helps to create
a stronger company, as well as more job security and
potential raises for everyone